Scott Miller – Author, Speaker & EVP at Franklin Covey | A Masterclass On Mentorship

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About The Guest

Scott Miller is a 23-year associate of FranklinCovey and serves as the executive vice president of thought leadership. Scott hosts multiple podcasts including FranklinCovey’s On Leadership and Great Life, Great Career. 

Additionally, Scott is the author of the multi-week Amazon #1 New Release: Management Mess to Leadership Success: 30 Challenges to Become the Leader You Would Follow. Scott authors a weekly leadership column for Inc.com and is a frequent contributor to Thrive Global.

Talking Points

  • 00:00 – Intro
  • 03:26 – Scott Miller’s origins story.
  • 05:11 – Defining a mentor.
  • 06:30 – How to build relationships with mentors.
  • 10:54 – The benefits of having a mentor.
  • 14:08 – How to find a mentor. 
  • 16:52 – Things to think about when searching for a mentor.
  • 19:28 – The difference between mentor moments and a traditional mentor relationship.
  • 22:24 – The most incredible people Scott’s spoken with.
  • 25:40 – Lessons from Steven Coffee
  • 28:30 – Lessons from Nick Vujicic.
  • 35:00 – Lessons from Tim Scott 
  • 39:17 – What did Scott aim to teach people with his book?
  • 41:39 – Life lessons from a career leadership expert.
  • 42:28 – How to connect with Scott Miller.
  • 42:56 – Scott Miller’s biggest challenges.
  • 43:55 – Scott Miller’s mentor.
  • 44:47 – Scott Miller’s book or podcast recommendation.
  • 45:35 – An unpopular opinion about mentorship.
  • 47:39 – What does success mean to Scott Miller?

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On this podcast, you’ll find interviews, Q&A, keynote presentations & conversations on sales, marketing, business, startups, and entrepreneurship.

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00:00

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Scott D Clary  00:35

Welcome to success story, the most useful podcast in the world. I’m your host Scott D. Clary. The success story podcast is part of the blue wire podcast network as well as the HubSpot Podcast Network. Now, the HubSpot Podcast Network has incredible shows like The Hustle daily, it’s hosted by Zachary Crockett Jacob Cohen, Rob literalist, and Juliette Bennett RYLA. Now the hustle daily brings you a healthy dose of irreverent, offbeat and informative takes on business, tech and news. And it happens daily. So if you want to stay up to date on the latest and greatest, and some of these topics are interesting to you, then you’re going to love the hustle daily topics like Amazon’s grocery strategy. The rise of the ugly shoe economy is AI the secret to love and America’s sleep deficit problem. So if these are topics you want to get into and you love hearing up to date content whenever you wake up in the morning, go listen to the hustle daily wherever you listen to your podcast. today. My guest is Scott Miller. He is the Executive Vice President at Franklin Covey. He is also the author of master mentors 30 transformative insights from our greatest minds. Scott’s had an incredibly impressive career. This is the second time he’s on the show. He’s a prolific speaker, I absolutely love the way that he teaches and presents. He hosts multiple podcasts himself, including the on leadership, podcast and great life great career. Additionally, he is the author of many books outside of the one we’re gonna talk about today, including the multi week Amazon number one best selling book management mess to leadership success. He authors a weekly leadership column for inc.com. And he’s also a frequent contributor for Thrive global. So we spoke about mentorship today, again, second time on the show. Why wouldn’t the mentorship of course, he just released a book on mentorship. The book is actually about some of the lessons that he’s learned from some of the people that he’s had on the show. And he’s had some of the most incredible individuals on his show. So we spoke about some of those lessons. But also Scott’s an incredible leader himself. And he teaches over he speaks as well as in his own organization teaches over a lot of things that will help you sort of level up in your own career. And one of those things being mentorship, we spoke about mentorship, because it’s such a, it’s such a powerful way to fast track your success if done properly. But it’s not properly defined. For a lot of people, there’s a lot of confusion about how to actually approach it, or people may not have success finding the people that they actually need in their life, to help them get to where they want to go. So we spoke about mentorship. What is a mentor what isn’t how somebody can build relationships with mentors that can help them the benefits of having a mentor, the right ways to find a mentor, which is incredibly important things people should be aware of when they are searching for mentorship. And the difference between a mentoring moment versus a traditional mentor relationship. You should be aware of that when you’re starting to seek out help and guidance. And then lastly, outside of some conversation regarding how to basically deploy mentorship in your life to level yourself up. Then we just spoke about some of the great stories that he’s that he’s been able to unpack and some insights that have been super impactful on him from some of the guests on his podcast. Let’s jump right into it. This is Scott Miller, EVP at Franklin Covey, as well as podcaster, author and speaker.

 

Scott Miller  04:02

So after four years with the Disney development company, they invited me to leave, which is kind of the way Disney fires you it’s a great culture, but they invite you to pursue your career elsewhere. So, you know after four years at Disney in Orlando, Florida, where does a single Catholic boy move? Well, of course to Provo, Utah where all the Catholics are so here I am 26 years old moving out from Orlando, Florida, to Provo, Utah to join Stephen Covey’s organization. Of course, the author of the seminal book The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. And here I find myself 25 years later, after having lived around the world as a executive officer for the world’s most influential leadership development firm was the Chief Marketing Officer for a decade began to start writing a column for Ink Magazine wrote several best selling books and now I am privileged to be the host of the world’s largest weekly leadership podcast called on leadership with Scott Miller where I have the honor and the privilege of inner Doing some of the world’s most influential luminaries, best selling authors, four star generals, and some people who may not be a household name but have a transformational insight to share. And as a result of my first 150 interviews on the podcast, I decided to write a book called Master mentors. 30 transformative insights from our greatest minds. My name is Scott Miller i in the data of three boys and the husband and Stephanie Miller. I live in Salt Lake City, Utah, a man What an honor to Scott D on your podcast today.

 

Scott D Clary  05:31

Dude, that was the perfect origin story that was concise that was succinct that you’ve you’ve done this once or twice. I know I know. You speak a lot. I know you. I know. You’re a great interviewer. I’m excited to have you on I’m excited to break down some of the things that you’ve learned that you transpose into this into this book, mentors, mentors met, people always speak about mentors mentorship, why it’s so important. What is a mentor?

 

Scott Miller  05:57

Well, a mentor is different things for different people. Sometimes it’s formal, like will you be my mentor? Will you mentor me on this six sigma process, sometimes it’s informal. It’s someone that just you know, friend it up, they friended someone who is more accomplished, wiser, smarter. But I think a mentor is someone who is abundant, who has wisdom to share with someone else, not not not an ego to try to turn them into a mini version of you. But someone who has an abundance mentality that wants to share not just their successes, but their failures and methods. I don’t know about you, but I learned more about having a successful marriage from those who are divorced, I learned more as an entrepreneur, growing my business from those who’ve had bankruptcies than from those who made their first million by age of 30. So I think a mentor is someone who is more concerned with what is right, than being right. Meaning what’s right for you, what are your strengths? What are your fears? What are your passions, and can any of my journey, mistakes and successes be helpful to you? That’s what a mentor is.

 

Scott D Clary  07:06

I feel like when people look for a mentor, they don’t have that definition in mind. I everything you just highlighted, when mentors open up when they’re vulnerable, when they teach over from their past failures, I think that’s what will actually help somebody and actually move the needle. But I feel like the average person doesn’t even know what to look for when they’re looking for a mentor. Because there’s this vision of a guru that can help them in all aspects of their life. And to me, that’s not, that’s not helpful. That’s not mentorship. And that’s not even what, that’s not even what your definition is like, if you’re looking for a mentor, you have to find somebody potentially who’s done something in one area of your life or one walk of your life. And if you find multiple people who’ve done different things in different areas of your life, and you consume them and you learn from them. That’s probably the best way to leverage what a mentor is. It’s not a course it’s not a class. It could be but it doesn’t have to be. And I think there’s something that I want to pull up. Because even you know, when you write a book, and the book is basically 3030 people that you’ve connected with, through your interview, and you take that insight and knowledge and you summarize it. That’s a definition of mentorship. That is mentorship that people can consume through the book. So how does somebody figure out? Let me think how to word this. How does somebody figure out how to build a relationship with a mentor? Is it something that you should go out and seek them? Is it something like you should just consume them on YouTube? What is an actual beneficial definition of a mentorship look like?

 

Scott Miller  08:43

I don’t think a mentor is someone you don’t know. Like, I don’t think you know, Gary Vee is not my mentor. But I follow him and I learned from him. He’s a podcast host that I listened to. I think some people confuse that your mentor is someone who is in relationship with you. It’s not your therapist. It’s not your coach. It’s not necessarily even your cheerleader. It’s someone that you’ve identified that has perhaps pursued a path similar to the one that you want to pursue, and that you believe they aren’t just smart, but they’re wise. I think that’s what’s different about a mentor. It’s someone that is smart and wise, that they have wisdom that they have enough confidence, to demonstrate humility, to not necessarily say that their path should be your path. A mentor is someone that asks big questions that they’re good listeners, that they’re able to, like I said before, demonstrate humility, which by the way, is a leadership competency. Humility is a mentoring competency, but someone can’t mentor you unless they know you want to be mentored. So I’d say formalize it. But make sure you declare your intent. Make sure that you’re not artificially trying to be mentored because you eventually want them to seed your first round of funding, or you want them to open their road. That’s right. Don’t manipulate someone into thinking they are your mentor. And all of a sudden you ambush them for a different reason. That’s just called duplicity. And disingenuousness. Find someone that you believe you can learn from their successes and their messes, declare your intent. My intent is trying to learn from your experience, would you spend some time with me over the next six months, one call a month, for 30 minutes to talk to me about these particular topics, and then honor that don’t send them emails throughout the week. don’t suffocate them. Most mentors, if they’re valuable, they’re probably successful, they’re probably in demand. They don’t want to be your therapist or best friend, if it turns into that different story, right. But I think people can’t help you. If they don’t know you need help. So reach out, move outside your comfort zone, reach out to someone perhaps you don’t even know and say, Hey, I’m trying to launch a podcast like you on HubSpot, on SoundCloud on Stitcher, whatever you’ve done what I’m wanting to do, could you mentor me for three or 430 minute sessions in the hopes that I could learn from you, most people, I have found that a successful have an abundance mindset. They’ll help you out as long as there’s not this sort of mission creep, right, you’re now their best friend, and you’re coming by their house, and you’re inviting yourself to their barbecues, be respectful of your mentors time and boundaries.

 

Scott D Clary  11:30

But there is one point that is important is there is a feedback loop, there is an active feedback loop. So it’s not just consuming a ton of their content. That’s an important part of mentorship as well. Okay, so then if I want to actually bring it back, because this is actually important, and I wrote a couple points down here, but I think we’re actually jumping the gun because we’re assuming that everybody even understands the benefits of having a mentor, because we’re probably on the same wavelength, when it comes to a lot of that stuff, as I find are many high performing individuals who have seen success in their life, they have aligned to people that have mentored them to some capacity. Let’s talk about the benefits of having a mentor, if somebody has never really sought out that they’ve done it on their own, so to speak. And they never really, they never really aligned with anyone, they felt like they couldn’t ever trust anyone to give them that feedback. How do you get somebody to take that first step? And why should they if they’ve already figured out their life to this point, without a mentor?

 

Scott Miller  12:30

Well, I don’t know a single person that’s successful that’s ever figured out their life without a mentor. They may not realize that they have a mentor in their life, it might be a rabbi, it might be a priest, it might be a father in law, might have been their headmaster. So I just I reject the premise that people have achieved any level of significant success, success without some kind of mentorship and maybe that they don’t realize it, but to your point. Mentorship is it can take on many forms and fashions. Mentors allow you to kind of look around corners. They allow you to turn a disappointment into an appointment. They give you feedback on your blind spots, which we all have, whether it be our our lack of vision or to big bold vision, Elif execution, mentors are typically like I said before wise people that just ask big, open ended questions. So if you were to do that, what’s the consequence? What’s the upside? What’s the downside? If you were to say that or launch that? Tell me about your board of directors? Tell me about people who are mentoring you in life? What are you doing? So I think mentor ships mentor ship isn’t really about teaching lessons from your journey. It’s about having your mentee. Know what questions to ask what uncover unfold, help them to understand their identity, what is their passion? What is their mission? How can they turn their fears into their strengths? I think a great mentor is someone who listens more than they talk. And so for me, mentorship is a requisite for a successful life is surrounding yourself people who by the way, they may not always be older than you might be younger. I have I have several people that are mentoring me on how to get on clubhouse and how to leverage tick tock and how to do you know different types of platforms to help launch my my books and products. They’re mentoring me and I’m not afraid to say I’ve got mentors that are half my age, they’re helping me become more relevant in a post COVID World right? And

 

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Scott Miller  15:43

So mentorship I think can be different people to different things, it kind of is what’s right for you at the moment in your life.

 

Scott D Clary  15:52

And if somebody wants to go find a mentor, you mentioned a few things like be very specific and intentional. Watch the creep of the relationship. Don’t try and get a mentor to have ulterior motives and to help them invest in your in your company. But if you do want to find a mentor, what are the right ways of going about it?

 

Scott Miller  16:12

Well, I think there’s probably many, right right ways. One is you can make a list of your entire network might be eight people might be 800 people. And you might call up some of the most accomplished people. And when I say accomplished, it might mean that they had the most bankruptcies because the people that have had the most failures, probably have the deepest lessons to teach and say, Hey, Scott, I noticed that you’ve launched three businesses, I’m trying to, you know, do some crowd sourcing or crowdfunding over here, who do you know, that could give me some wisdom on this, anybody you know, that you’d be willing to build a bridge to? Your mentor may not be in your network, it might be your attorneys, accountant. It might be your ex girlfriend’s brother, it might be someone that you don’t even know. So I would say the first step would be to look at your own network, and find trustworthy wise people who might be able to bridge build a bridge to someone they know, if that isn’t the case, you might just reach out to someone. I mean, I don’t care how big of a celebrity you are, you’re still checking your Facebook feed at 830. At night in bed, I don’t care how successful you are, you still have an email account, you still have an Instagram, and you’re still looking at it in the evening time when needed a break for your kids, because you’re you’ve worked 14 hours today. So I’m a big proponent of just putting yourself out there. And asking, most of my success has come. Because I was willing to I was willing to ask, I was willing to pick up the phone and call Matthew McConaughey and say, Matthew, I’d love to interview you. Sometimes they say no, sometimes they say yes. And Matthew leads you to Will Smith. And Will Smith leads you to Mark Manson, Mark Manson leads you to you get the point, right. And so there’s many ways to find a mentor. And you’ll know pretty quickly if it’s the right fit for you. I think what goes wrong and mentorship is when you start to treat the mentor as your friend, or as your bank, or as your coach or your therapist. Mentors are there to help impart any knowledge and wisdom that they’ve gleaned from their journey that can be replicated in your journey. I think also mentorship goes wrong when the mentor feels like their job is to like I said before, it kind of turned you into them. Mentorship is not trying to have someone follow your path. It’s about helping them clarify and uncover their path.

 

Scott D Clary  18:35

So when you when you have someone that is helping you clarify and uncover your path, that’s that’s when you know you’re in a positive mental relationship when it’s not extending beyond that. Now, I would also just ask, How do you know when a mentor so how would you? I guess you sort of answered how you know when a mentorship isn’t working out, but even just jumping into something. What are some red flags right off the bat when you are looking for mentors? Because you’re right, there’s a lot of there’s a lot of opportunity out there you may see somebody as successful is or things that you should stay away from or be wary of when you’re trying to find someone to help you.

 

Scott Miller  19:15

Well, I think it’s self awareness. Knowing what it’s like to coach you knowing what it’s like to be on a zoom call with you. So some of it first is self awareness to know what type of person would it be best to match your personality? I think also is scope creep. You know, you don’t want to call up Sylvester Stallone and ask him if he’ll mentor you for a year and a half on how to become, you know, a boxer. I don’t watch his movies. I think he was a boxer is that what rocky wasn’t? He was not a boxing fan. Forgive me to your millions of boxing listeners. But I mean, that’s overwhelming, right? Slides slow is like, you know, mentor you for a year and a half. But you might say Hey, can I have a half an hour of your time? And the mentor might fall in love with you? And she or he might say hey, you know it If you have more questions, give me a call. So I think incrementalism, it’s like dating or you’re gonna go on the first date, whether or not you want to invite you know, this person back or they want to invite you back, be transparent, be open, I think be realistic, is I’m trying to develop this skill, right? I’m trying to do this particular thing. And I have identified that you may have some expertise in this, would you be willing to coach me, and I will be very specific, in a couple of 30 minute sessions, you know, if it goes well, and you have high EQ, you can read into the third session, whether or not it’s appropriate to ask them to extend it or not. And I also think it’s gracious to break it off. If after the second call, you find that that person’s expertise isn’t what you thought, or they’re not as invested, you can simply thank them for their time. Hey, can I tell you, Scott, I have so appreciate your investment in me, I’m going to actually release you from any further commitments, I’m going to go out and execute on the things that you’ve taught me already? And would you be willing, if I needed some more time to ever give it to me? Sure. And then, and then they feel validated, and you feel like you’re able to break it off? I think many of those techniques can work for different types of people.

 

Scott D Clary  21:10

One thing that you mentioned is is a mentor moment, walk me through what a mentor moment is, versus I guess a traditional mentorship relationship?

 

Scott Miller  21:24

Well, I mean, you can have a mentor that’s a 30 minute cup of coffee at a Panera, right. I mean, that’s what most of my chapters are about in the master mentor book, right? These are people that I had on a 35 minute podcast where they dropped a truth bomb that I had never heard at the age of 50. I never heard that concept before. Here’s a good example. This is a concept from Hiram Smith, who is the co founder of Franklin Covey, he invented the famous Franklin planner, the paper planning tool, right, which is not part of the company anymore. But Hiram taught me in a mentor moment, this concept of you can see life through three lenses, I have to I ought to, I get to, I have to take the garbage out. On January in a cold Salt Lake freezing 10pm I ought to take the garbage out. Or I get to take the garbage out. The first mentor in the book is a man named Nick voyage which Nick V church was born with no limbs, no arms, and no legs is a torso and a head. And Nick voyage, which would love to take the garbage out on a five degree January evening, and Salt Lake City, Nick Bucha has never taken the garbage out. And so whenever I’m entering a task, whether it be terminating someone, or flying to Miami from Salt Lake, I get to take a seven hour flight today I get to be on Scott’s podcast, moving from a mindset of I have to, through I ought to, to I get to, that’s a mentor moment is something that, you know, could happen in a very short conversation where someone’s wisdom can be imparted to you and completely change your life by changing your mindset, your behaviors, and your results.

 

Scott D Clary  23:17

So ,go out, go out and find these people. Because even even something as as short as a 30 minute segment. And that’s what I wanted to draw out because I think people get scared about the concept of mentorship, and they get worried that okay, well, I’m not going to have a year with Sylvester Stallone, but still push yourself outside that comfort zone, get that coffee meeting for 30 minutes for somebody who has achieved incredible stuff in their life. And you’re still going to get something out of

 

Scott Miller  23:44

that. Your mentor doesn’t need to be a famous celebrity. They don’t need to or any attorney in town, it might be just someone that has traveled down a similar path that you have. And no doubt if you ask the right questions, and you have an open mindset, and you’re also willing to listen. I mean, there’s just no question. You’re not going to glean some insight out of them.

 

Scott D Clary  24:08

Out of the hundreds of people that you’ve interviewed, why these 30? What was so what was because you’re going to do, we were discussing in the in the preamble there, you’re going to do what 12 of these books are or more, at least, but still, this is the inaugural book 3030 30 insights, basically. So what was the what was the rationale for these 30 individuals?

 

Scott Miller  24:34

They Agreed? Agreed? No, actually, there’s some truth to that. Right. So I mentioned I host this podcast called on leadership with Scott Miller. And you have to have appeared on the podcast to be included in the book. So I picked people from all walks of life. Honestly, it was it was people that I found that they actually had a transformative insight. Now that’s a pretty high standard, right because not everything in this book you might find transformative I think this book Scott is a kind of a start anywhere go everywhere it’s easy breezy fast read three or four page chapters This is not good to great are built to last this is sort of Chicken Soup for the business leadership soul. So I picked people fairly episodically Dr. Daniel Amon, the famed psychiatrist and neuroscientist on brain health, Stephanie McMahon from WWE fame. Speaking of boxing, wrestling, wrestling, not boxing. I’m talking about brain with her Seth Godin, right on reckless versus fearless Susan Cain, the author of the book quiet around introverts and extroverts, Dave Hollis on vulnerability, General McChrystal on being in the right side of history. So I picked people that I thought were different ethnicities, ages, religions, expertise and put together a purposely episodic book that could hit anywhere, for anyone, at any time, whether you’re just going through a divorce, whether you’ve just became a parent, whether you just launched a business, whether you were just fired from your job. Whether your private equity company just said no and you’re on the hunt for another round of funding. I wrote it episodically on purpose and tried to bring in broad people from different walks of life.

 

Scott D Clary  26:16

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Scott Miller  28:12

So point of clarification. This is actually Dr. Covey’s oldest son by the same name. Although I worked with Dr. Stephen R Covey for no 15 of my 25 years he passed about a decade ago, and his oldest son Stephen, Mr. Covey wrote a very famous book called The Speed of Trust. This is the most best biggest best selling book in the world around building a high trust culture and how to become a high trust leader. So the Stephen Covey that I interview is Stephen, Mr. Covey, the oldest son of Dr. Covey, our founder. And I highlighted him because I think he is a very practical practitioner of trustworthiness. Now that the insight that I share on him, it’s not about his book, or about anything we discussed on our podcast. In fact, many of these insights were not shared in the podcast. Some of them were in the metaphorical green room, or in a car at a restaurant somewhere. Some cases they were from the podcast itself, some cases from their books, some cases they were from an experience I had with Stephen Mr. Covey. The insight that I share is actually called pulling the plug is knowing when literally as a leader, you need to pull the plug on a product launch on your marriage, on a business on a toxic relationship on some kind of venture or innovation. So Stephen, Mr. Covey’s fame and influence is actually on how to become a trusted person. But the chapter that I write about to some people surprise, maybe even frustration or delight, is when I saw him, as the CEO and president of our company, pull the plug on a product launch hours before he’s gonna launch because it wasn’t at the standard that our brand would require and our clients would respect it. And there were some pretty serious reverberations in the firm because of it. So I think it’s a good lesson on, when is it time to pull the plug in your own life? Not on your life, but in your life?

 

Scott D Clary  30:13

Take first of all, thank you for the clarification. I actually, I wasn’t sure if it was the son or the father, because I just realized that you’ve you’ve worked with the father before he passed. And I thought there was probably some, I’m sure there’s some threads of influence, and your son as well, many, many. Another person that you mentioned, and you mentioned him just when we were just riffing a couple seconds ago is is neck. Voice Search. Yeah. So he’s an incredible person. He’s spoken to like millions and millions. And I’m sure that if you have gone down a YouTube rabbit hole of any sort of inspiration, you’ve seen him somewhere. You’ve seen him on Google Cast. So he actually was on your podcast, but then he went to your home for dinner as well. Yeah. What did what did she teach over? There was so impactful that you put in this book.

 

Scott Miller  31:01

So every month my wife and I host a dinner party in our house in Salt Lake City, where we invite some kind of luminary, it might be a governor, an ambassador, an actor or a musician. Post Malone is coming over, Ty Burrell is coming over. So we pick we pick some kind of luminary, we fly them in. And we invite about 15 People from around Salt Lake to come some our friends, some business leaders, some educators, and we just have a dinner with this luminary. Nick was one of them. Nick flew to my house before the 15 guests arrive. I think we had barbecue in the backyard, right? It’s it’s not a formal dinner party. But before he arrived, he was sitting on my sofa in my living room, we were just talking with each other. Now again, Nick is Australian by birth, he is Texan by choice lives here in the US a transplant from LA. And Nick is a very powerful person because he always looks forward doesn’t look back. Again, born with no arms and no legs tried to take his life as an early child literally tried to throw himself off a kitchen counter to end his life. And it didn’t happen like he planned. He’s a very religious person, very evangelical speaker. But regardless of his political and maybe religious views of which some I agree with and some I disagree with. We’ve built a very strong love and friendship for each other because I have learned an immense amount from Nick and that is being grateful for all you had and the story that I share in the book is I 50 years old, I met Nick and I had a I have and continue to have a fairly privileged life. Some offered to me and some earned by me. But I was sitting on my sofa watching Nick scratch his forehead on my sofa, like a cat. Because Nick can’t scratch himself. He has no limbs. Giovanni is his full time caretaker. Now Nick is married and has four kids. But Nick can’t scratch his head. He can’t brush his teeth by himself. He can’t use the restroom dress himself. Nick can do very little physically on his own. And here I am across from him on his sofa. reflexively looking down, I have a cup of water in my hand, I’m drinking a cup of water. Because I was thirsty. Nick can’t drink a cup of water, he has to ask for one and someone has to hold it up to his mouth, he has to drink it. And it was right then and there, Scott that I realized I never shown any appreciation for my arms or my legs or my hands or my toes or my anything. When I type when I when I adjust my phone when I do anything. And so it was just that moment that I just had this overwhelming sense of gratitude for my fingers. An hour later, we’re out in the back dinner party. And Nick is talking he sits in a chair with his torso. So just imagine that you have nothing beneath basically your groin. And you have no arms. No show of shoulders, no arms. I’m eating a piece of keylime pie standing behind the dinner table. And Nick is talking and I looked down. I don’t remember picking up the key lime pie. I don’t remember finding the fork. And here I am just like gorging on my key lime pie. Well, Nick is kind of just like you know, keeping his torsos and fall out of his chair. And so for me, maybe you had to be there. But in this story in the book I just talked about how all of us can benefit from having a deeper sense of gratitude for the small things. Maybe you can’t pay your entire visa bill this month. Be grateful you paid 30 bucks for it. Maybe your air conditioner isn’t working but your lights are be grateful for that. Maybe you can only put $4 a gas in your car. Then there be grateful for that kind of ties into the whole concept that I shared earlier. Around. I have to I ought to I get to. So at midnight or 10 o’clock on Sunday night when the wind is blowing in the driveway is iced over and I’ve got to take the garbage out to the garbage cans and wheel the garbage cans out to the road and I go to the trash can and I open it up and I get a whiff of my dog feces was my boy took him for a walk but didn’t tie the bag. I used to think Ah, now I think I get to take the garbage out. Because Nick vous church cannot take the garbage out.

 

Scott D Clary  35:14

That that is one of those. That is one of those moments in all seriousness where you listen to somebody you you just you’re you’re with somebody for a period of time and in that short period of time, that is when they truly change your life.

 

Scott Miller  35:28

Yeah,changed my life. Changed my life. Yeah, it’s different today. I’m In Miami today giving a speech. I live in Salt Lake and so it’d be a full day of travel. I’ll get home at 10 o’clock tonight. I get to take a six hour flight back to Salt Lake tonight probably eight hours when you factor in my my you know layover I get to do that. And before I would have thought a nine like I get to I get to walk on the plane with my own two legs

 

Scott D Clary  35:59

That’s That’s raw. That’s tough, man. That’s right stuff. That is sorry. The story gave me every time I hear his story gives me shivers they’re not seriously this is not just we’re not just you know, just just riffing on this for fun like that’s a that’s a an incredible human being. If you don’t know who he is you

 

Scott Miller  36:18

should you go into the shower today. And you put the shampoo in your hair. Be grateful you have hands to put the shampoo in. Right when you text your friends be grateful that you have a phone that works that can text it doesn’t mean lower your standard. It means be grateful for what you have stopped focusing what you don’t.

 

Scott D Clary  36:38

Let’s tell me one more story. Because actually, I was actually incorrect. It’s actually five I just so there was actually five people that you had put in the preamble about Nick. There. Yeah, I was gonna say Kim Scott Stevens, Stephanie McMahon and then Trent Shelton. But yeah,

 

Scott Miller  36:53

yeah, but Kim swimmer can’t talk about Kim Scott for a minute.

 

Scott D Clary  36:58

Yeah, I was gonna say for you that I want to I want to just just highlight, you actually took a word for word transcript from your show and put into the book. And you didn’t do that with everybody. And I’m also curious why so talks about talk about Kim and radical candor, cuz I know that’s the book she wrote. But that’s more about it.

 

Scott Miller  37:14

So Kim and Trent have nothing in common right. Kim is a Silicon Valley white female executive Trent Shelton is a former NFL player, a black American male, they are very similar. They have no similarities, actually. But what they have in common the similarities they do have was their interview was so powerful a podcast that I chose not to just write about it, I chose to take their exact verbatim transcript and put it in the book because they could tell their story better than I could only only the two of them. Kim Scott is a former executive at Google. She was one day sharing a story that at Google, she was meeting with Eric Schmidt, then the CEO, and one of the two founders whose names I can’t properly pronounce, I won’t attempt and she’s in the room with her then boss, Sheryl Sandberg that then left Google Now I think it’s the CEO of Facebook.

 

Scott D Clary  38:06

That’s an all star team, by the way.

 

Scott Miller  38:10

This is yeah, this is my world, right is hanging out with the founders of Google hardly. So Kim Scott shares this story. But after this meeting, she’s giving a presentation to Eric Schmidt and I think it was soggy. Sheryl Sandberg says hey, come back to my office a moment. And Kim’s like, Oh, she comes back to Sheryl Sandberg office and Cheryl says, Hey, how do you think that went? And Kim said when fabulous? They seemed like they were really invested? And Cheryl said, Do you realize that every third or fourth word you said was like or, um, I was like, and she was like, and he was like, and I was like, and um, and and um, and ah, Kim said, Yeah, it’s like a verbal tic. It’s no big deal. And then Cheryl said, yeah, that thing you do with your hand. This thing you do with your hand when you just like dismiss things? It’s insulting. And Kim said, for the first time in her life, she felt like someone was telling her that she had spinach in your teeth, metaphorically. And Sheryl Sandberg said, Kim, you sound stupid. When you talk that way. I am willing to get you a speech coach if you’d like. Here’s the point. Kim went on to write this book called Radical candor, about how one of the greatest gifts we can give people who work for us is feedback on their blind spots. done so with a level of courage and diplomacy that keeps their self esteem their self worth their self confidence intact. And it was Sheryl Sandberg that demonstrated radical candor with Kim Scott, which is the opposite opposite of ruinous empathy. As a leader, Kim and I are on the same page when it comes to a leader his first job, most important job, the biggest gift they can give those who work in with them is feedback on their blog. Mind spot. It might be their personal hygiene, it might be their punctuality, it might be their self awareness of how much they speak versus Listen, it might be their inability to take responsibility for their actions and blame others or on and on and on. And this is the main role of a leader is to transition people out of self defeating behaviors and habits that no other leader had the courage to do before them. This book, radical candor is amazing. And Kim Scott is enormously self aware and vulnerable to share what she learned from Sheryl Sandberg and others, I held him Scott up as a great leadership example, that anybody reading this book, whether you are formal or informal leader, whether you’re a mentor, formally or informally, your job is to appropriately build trust with others so that you can get them in a position in the conditions where you can be radically candid with them.

 

Scott D Clary  41:02

When people read  this book, what do you want them to take from it? You want them to take action? Do you want them to just feel enlightened? Like they’ve learned from 30 incredible people? What’s the what’s the what’s the end result?

 

Scott Miller  41:12

Yes. And yes, I think like I said, this book is going to hit everybody differently. You know, one thing I learned from Seth Godin. And from Clayton Christensen is, as a marketer, not everybody is your client, right? You need to understand the exact circumstance your client is and not everybody needs to come to your restaurant, but everybody needs to come to your spa. You can’t everybody is not your customer. It’s not true. On this book, however, I’ll tell you, it’s got a broad audience, it’s going to hit people differently. And I hope people take away from it. A piercingly transformative insight that hits them right, when and where they are, as I mentioned earlier, not every Insight will hit you as transformative. In many cases that will remind you of something you already know, there’ll be a lot of dumb moments. But at the end of each chapter, I offer kind of a big recap. Here’s the big idea. And then I pose a question to the reader, different question for each chapter. How are you going to implement this by asking them a provocative question? So I think, in many ways, every reader will have a different experience with the book. And it’s the kind of book where you can read chapter 14 Before chapter six, you can scan a table of contents, go to someone you love, and no, go to someone you don’t know or love, and maybe become a follower of theirs. We mentioned off air. You know, I’m not sure I’ve ever had an original thought in my entire life. I was the Chief Marketing Officer, I had some success in life. But at the heart of it, I’m just an aggregator, and a pollinator, I think my calling now is to is to gather the feet of wise people, and then pollinate their wisdom to as many people as possible. And in some ways, I hope that this book becomes a platform and a spotlight for those 30 people and allows others to say I’ve heard a Brendon Bouchard, who is that or I’ve heard of Stedman, Graham, is that Oprah’s boyfriend? Why is he in here? Well, Stedman Graham is a remarkable Entrepreneur on his own right. And the insight that I share from him, for me, was literally life changing. I hope the book hits everybody exactly where they needed to.

 

Scott D Clary  43:20

Awesome, and that’s great. Okay, so I have, I have a couple of rapid fire that I asked I pull out a couple last career insights from you. Any other closing? Those were probably closing thoughts, but anything else that you wanted to bring up that we didn’t get into?

 

Scott Miller  43:32

You know, Stephanie is great. And Stedman Graham has insight was most of us live our life, fulfilling the identity that others placed on us, our parents or guardians or headmaster’s or rabbis. And instead of living your life, becoming the chemical engineer that your father wanted you to become. Go choose your own identity, and spend your life fulfilling the identity you want for yourself. That sounds like therapy 101. But Stedman Graham taught it to me in my late 40s. And it’s exactly what I’m doing. Thank you Stedman Graham. Awesome. Okay. But I’m not going to be what you want me to be I’m going to be what I want to be

 

Scott D Clary  44:07

good as you should be as everyone as everyone should be. If people want to connect with you, where do they go? Social website. Where do they get the book short?

 

Scott Miller  44:16

Sure. The books are right can be found on every retailer, Amazon Books a Million you name it. My books are out there. You can google Scott Jeffrey Miller. My website is in fact Scott Jeffrey miller.com. I’m on every social platform LinkedIn, Twitter, Instagram, YouTube, Facebook soon to be Tik Tok among clubhouse. If you Google me, I’m bound to come up Scott. Jeffrey Miller.

 

Scott D Clary  44:38

Okay, amazing. All right. Biggest challenge you’ve overcome in your personal or professional life?

 

Scott Miller  44:44

Yeah, I’m a stutterer. I have a lifelong stutter. I spent 20 years in speech therapy and speech pathology. I’ve had braces three times. I’m going into Invisalign. Next week for my fourth time to help control my stutter. There are about 35 words I cannot say in public, and I’ve worked very hard to build off ramps and alternative words. So when a word comes up that Tada, I’ve got 17 words that may or may not make exact sense, but I have a lot of a lot of file drawers that I can pull from, but I have a strong speech impediment. And I’ve worked hard to try to work through it, and in some cases, even conquer it.

 

Scott D Clary  45:18

You know what I was? I didn’t know that. But I think that you’re probably one of the strongest speakers. Probably one of the one of the strongest speakers I’ve ever had on this show. And I’ve, I’ve listened to your podcast and whatnot. That’s incredible. I think you’ve actually leveled up beyond the skill set of many other people just because you had to conquer that.

 

Scott Miller  45:36

Probably. That’s gracious of you. And thank you.

 

Scott D Clary  45:40

If you had to choose one person, there’s probably been many that had an incredible impact on your life. Who was it? And what did they teach you?

 

Scott Miller  45:46

Seth Godin has become a very dear friend of mine. Of course, you know who Seth Godin is a famous blogger, author, Seth taught me the difference between being reckless, and being fearless. And it’s one of the 30 mentors that I highlight. In the book, I spent most of my life thinking, I was being fearless. When in fact, I was being reckless, reckless, with my brand, reckless with your feelings. I was the kind of guy that kind of, you know, seven was on my mind, and, you know, kind of just let the chips fall where they lie. And I realized that no, that wasn’t fearless. That was reckless. And not every thought I have needs to be expressed. So I don’t need to tell you anything on my mind. I should be more fearless and less reckless.

 

Scott D Clary  46:30

What would be one resource could be a podcast, audible book, obviously not yours. But something else that you’ve consumed that you’d recommend people go check out.

 

Scott Miller  46:39

You know, I’m a big fan of Donald Miller. He’s one of the most famous marketing minds in the nation. And Donald Miller wrote the book, of course, you know, building a story brand, he wrote business made simple marketing Made Simple. He’s in the book as well, just conveniently, Donald Miller is a very wise marketer, entrepreneur based out of Nashville, his podcast, I think it may be even called now business made simple, but he’s a very abundant gentleman that likes to shadow and others. And if you’re an entrepreneur, or a solopreneur, an intrapreneur. If you’re looking for a side hustle, if you follow, you’ll learn a ton from Donald Miller.

 

Scott D Clary  47:18

What would be one unpopular opinion you hold about business life, mentorship, leadership,

 

Scott Miller  47:25

I do not believe in the canceled culture. I am radically opposed to opportunistically taking people down, I have some friends that are big celebrities that said the wrong thing or did the wrong thing. And they they kind of you know, saw the light and, and and it’s hard for them to recover. I believe in second third chances. I think if you’re a sociopath, if you’re like a morally corrupt person, different story, but generally, I am the king of second chances. I think people should be not just forgiven, they should be in most cases pre forgiven. These people are going to say the wrong thing. When you are a celebrity, when you are a leader, when you are an owner, just by sheer volume, you’re going to say stuff that’s done. It’s very safe to be Switzerland, it’s very safe not to ever express an opinion. But just by the sheer odds of stalking, of announcing a declaring, you’re going to say things that you need to unwind. And so I generally am moving into my last clearly half of my life being much more forgiving of people and not taking things so personally.

 

Scott D Clary  48:33

Good. Very good. And then if you could tell your 20 year old self one thing, what would it be?

 

Scott Miller  48:39

Oh, guard your FICO score with your life. Guard your credit score with your life, right? I mean, my score is sometimes in the 800. Sometimes it’s in the six hundreds, you know, the amount of money that I have spent on, you know, extra interest because my FICO score was below 700. I mean, it’s just insane. So guard your credit score with your life next to your reputation and your soul, it probably is your most valuable asset.

 

Scott D Clary  49:10

And then last question, you can expect that one digit I did not I did not expect that at all. But that’s that Listen, man, good advice is good advice doesn’t matter. It doesn’t matter what it’s about. I think that’s damn good advice. So I appreciate it. What does success mean to you?

 

Scott Miller  49:26

Oh, raising my three sons to be gentleman, raising my three sons to not be bullies, not be mean, to be kind, to be generous to be helpful to help people out to protect people who need to be protected. My MIT I wasn’t married. I was 42. I was married late in life. My wife and I had three boys. Technically she had three boys in five years is not been easy. I never wanted to be a parent. Truth is I still don’t want to be a parent. I don’t enjoy it. But it is now my calling My Mission Success to me is having these three boys feel loved and stay connected with me they’ve had their whole life successful even my children come home because they want to not because they have to

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